I'm having a bad day. I'll admit it. Really, it seems that nothing is going my way. My phone won't work in my house. My neck won't stop hurting. I'm scattered all over the place and I can't find a tube of toothpaste that I ordered for a client. I'm working on this website and my pictures won't download. Or they disappear. Or something else downloads. Guys, my energy is WAY out of whack. Does that ever happen to you? Does your day get worse and worse and worse? Have you ever wondered why, once you get on the wrong track, you stay on the wrong track and it just escalates?
So, here's the thing. We tell stories about everything that is happening in our lives. We judge what is happening. We name it (or title it) and then we find evidence for other things in our lives that match the story. Pretty soon, we just can't seem to catch a break. So... do you know that YOU are creating all of that?
Have you ever met someone, and they seem to have everything going for them? They get whatever they want, whenever they want it, and life just seems to go well for them. Have you ever met someone who can't seem to catch a break? Their life is constantly in a shambles and they just can't seem to get back on track. We are powerful creators of our own reality and we don't even know it.
Guess what...you can shift it. You can let go of your anger, frustration, sadness, disgust and go in a different direction. Our emotions have energy and things like phones and computers respond to energy. If you notice that your electrical devices keep glitching out, you may want to try to turn down your energy a bit. Our bodies also respond to the energy. And they respond chemically. When you are feeling intense emotion (like rage, for example), your body dumps hormones into our system. "Rage occurs when oxytocin, vasopressin, and corticotropin-releasing hormone are rapidly released from the hypothalamus. This results in the pituitary gland producing and releasing large amounts of the adrenocorticotropic hormone, which causes the adrenal cortex to release corticosteroids. This chain reaction occurs when faced with a threatening situation." https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rage_(emotion)
Too many episodes of feeling rage, will leave you with an imbalance in your endocrine system which can lead to autoimmune disorders and other dis-ease in your body. So...what to do? First of all, if possible, step away from the situation. Go do something else. Focus on taking deep breaths and try to clear your mind of the event that is causing so much emotion. As I mentioned in my last post, look around. Notice what you see. Try to notice and separate the colors of each thing you look at. The more you can focus on details, the more your mind will relax and focus on something tangible and bring you into a more relaxed state.
If you cannot leave the situation, physically, do whatever you can to leave it mentally. If you are experiencing road rage in your car, try to focus on the song that is playing on the radio. Look out the window at something else. Most times road rage is experienced because we are trying to go somewhere and we can't. If we are running late the rage can escalate in a hurry and everyone on the road becomes a complete cockwaffle. If possible, breathe deeply and focus your attention on something else besides the cockwaffle in front of you. Try to focus on your breathing and use the looking exercise as well. Look at the color of the sky. If you are stuck in traffic that is not moving, count the clouds. Whatever it takes to get your brain out of the situation.
And if you are just having a plain ol' bad day, try to let go of the things that are not going well. Don't dwell on the car not starting. Don't dwell on the phone not working...instead shift your mind towards gratitude of all the things that ARE working. Your hair looks amazing. You feel great in your jeans. Your socks feel soft against your feet. You can walk. You have two hands. And two eyes. Let your emotion soften into gratitude and see if your day doesn't start to improve immediately.
Just from sitting down to write this and to take my own advice, I can feel the softening in my chest, in my neck. My brain feels better. The tension has flooded out of my body and I can breathe more deeply. My phone just rang and I answered it and had service. The computer is working more effectively. You can also give yourself a mantra to help with the softening. "I am the luckiest girl in the world." "Life is always going well for me." "I am grateful for all that I have."
Tension Blend (Past Tense) is the oil of relief. It assists individuals in releasing stress and emotional tension. It "synergistically combines the powerful relaxation qualities of essential oils to assist and teach the body how to calm and relax...As physical and emotional discomforts are relieved, Tension Blend fosters feelings of appreciation. It reminds individuals to be grateful for and enjoy their many life experiences." From Emotions & Essential Oils Emotional Reference Guide 3rd edition